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Share a Story...

by misspeaches in

i really enjoy reading the stories/experiences you guys all post on here from your jdub days..... the funny, ridiculous, ironic ones make me laugh but reinforce in my mind that i've done the right thing by leaving that organisation.. the hurtful, sad, mean ones make me hurt as well but again - reinforce in my mind that i've done the right thing by leaving that organisation.. the scandals that go on - well same again - they reinforce in my mind that i've done the right thing by leaving that organisation.. i do appreciate the time you all take in writing down your stories and will never tire of reading them.

so if you have a story you haven't relayed here before because it is didn't seem relevant to a thread i would love to read it!.

cheers - miss peaches

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I should have added that while I was in Charlotte at that new cong. my then JW husband before being DFd stopped working. He brought in NO money and was out all the time (I found out years later he was visiting gay bars and experimenting with that lifestyle) and of course smoking cigarettes. Our car had been repoed (they showed up one day at my work to get it). I was walking 2 1/2 miles to work one way, dropping off my young son to day care so I could work all day. I was exhausted, my thyroid started to enlarge and I looked and felt wasted. I ended up having a 'burn out' that took me two years to recover from.

I went to the elders and told them that I needed help. I said all is falling apart and I can't do it all alone, I don't know what to do. The brother had a meeting with the other brothers and this is what they told me!!!

The MAN or HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD is the only one who can ask us for HELP!!! I finally got a hold of my nowX and told him to go to the elders and expain we need help, or to his family. He said NO. He was DFd soon after that when the elders approached him about cigarette smoking and he talked to them while lighting up one.

I had to notify my family back in Mass. and they sent me plane tickets to go home leaving all I owned back there with no way to get it home.

I found out later that my nowX's brother who had visited us just before that time had not acted JW-like. (I found out from her that he had stayed with a Pioneering sister at her place!!! A single Pioneering sister!) She was going out in service with him every day and they were sitting together while he visited for 2 weeks. We all thought he was interested in her. After the two weeks, he left without a word. She was devastated, and kept coming over to ask me what had happened. He never admitted to that, and told me I was mistaken about him having spent that much time with him!!! Sounds like his brother (my X) and him had a lot in common! He is now an elder in a cong. in Mass somewhere!

I am starting to feel some of the old feelings of disgust when I write these old stories. I had no idea that I still felt anything about those times. Yuck. I am not sure whether to still post here or get some rest from it. I can't believe I was envolved in all that JUNK and sick stuff!!!! And stayed!!!!!!!!!!! I was out not long after that happened above though cause it kept getting worse.

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Share a Story...

by misspeaches in

i really enjoy reading the stories/experiences you guys all post on here from your jdub days..... the funny, ridiculous, ironic ones make me laugh but reinforce in my mind that i've done the right thing by leaving that organisation.. the hurtful, sad, mean ones make me hurt as well but again - reinforce in my mind that i've done the right thing by leaving that organisation.. the scandals that go on - well same again - they reinforce in my mind that i've done the right thing by leaving that organisation.. i do appreciate the time you all take in writing down your stories and will never tire of reading them.

so if you have a story you haven't relayed here before because it is didn't seem relevant to a thread i would love to read it!.

cheers - miss peaches

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Here's one I have not told yet.

We had moved to Charlotte and my husband went astray and I moved back home. My husband was DFd and we were now separated (lots of reasons, but his DFd came from not wanting to give up cigarettes) I was at a Thursday night meeting (just got there) and in the coat closet. I was alone putting my car keys in my coat pocket when a brother that was not really our close friend came up to me. I thought it was to welcome me back to the cong. He wispered at me and as he started to speak, his voice got angry "why aren't you with your husband, a woman's place is with her husband"!!! Since it had not been announced yet I could not say anything. It took a month or so before they announced it at that hall. It was awkward for me and my children, people starred at us and 'speculated' what was going on for a whole month. I felt like a leper!

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He's getting married in the morning!

by Crumpet in

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it's diamondblue74's big day tomorrow!

here's hoping the special day goes perfectly and wishijng a beautiful wedding db74 and very long and happy marriage.. crumpet x

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Congratulations, I wish you all the best!

Relax and let love surround you both!

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That Voice...My Story

by Confession in

why doesnt he just talk to me later?

i dont really talk about this much, but i just dont get it.

he seems confident that eventually ill understand him.

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Confession, I think that 'confessions' come on stronger in congregations where the elders are all former Catholics. Their former teachings can creep in. If you point this out though, beware of the wrath. I found that in Mass. where I was in the congregation, confession and penance was like their second language. In the former Baptist environment of the cong. in Charlotte, NC for example that was not even brought up!

Just my observation

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What are you like when you don't get enough sleep?

by Crumpet in

how much sleep do you need generally?

if you don't get enough sleep - what are you like the next day?

does how you behave reflect the reason you didn't get enough sleep blatantly to others?

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I had a baby a few days ago but so far so good

Ellie, You just had a baby!!! Congrats! And you are posting and thinking about this board? You are quite a gal!

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HAS MUSIC ever sneaked up on you and changed the way your view life?

by Terry in

http://www.freeminds.org/aftrhour/paradise_lost.htm

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My first experience with 'life altering' music was the Beatles. Then, Led Zeplin, and Pink Floyd's the Wall. Then and always the BeeGees and Eagles.

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They wonder why they are losing people???

by LongHairGal in

i have to laugh at how hard they try to bring people in by knocking on doors and rv's - but once the people are in they are pushing them out the back door with both hands!

we all remember how hard it was to stay there (even if you believed it all) - let alone the head-trips they put you through!!

listen to this.

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zagor,

I agree with your post, well said!

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They wonder why they are losing people???

by LongHairGal in

i have to laugh at how hard they try to bring people in by knocking on doors and rv's - but once the people are in they are pushing them out the back door with both hands!

we all remember how hard it was to stay there (even if you believed it all) - let alone the head-trips they put you through!!

listen to this.

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There is still something in the air about the 'posts' I have just read here that smacks of JW brotherhood. The 'good ole boys' network that is disquised as a religion.

I felt a sense of aquiring a 'wife' as something to attain like a possession! The JW teachings are deep brothers, and it shows! And of course your rationalizing would be that the woman be younger because she is 'dumber' at being smart! Never mind her 'virgin' status and youthful looks, that wouldn't have anything to do with it would it? Submission is what some of you are looking for which is why I am sure you joined the JWs! I did not ready any posts that said I have met some great women friends over the years and learned a lot about them. It is like shopping for you guys in JWs isn't it? No need to learn how women are, after all the one you pick won't have a mind of her own will she because she may stand up to you!!! All you worry about is that she will continue to put up and shut up.

A woman on the other hand has to worry about whether the man will beat her in private, boss her around, not let her have any life at all outside the home. And she has to 'put out' to fullfill her husband's needs. TALL ORDER for JW women! There is no exchange is there, JW brothers don't even have to worry about wives going to the elders to squeel, cause they won't listen to the lowly female complaining. Locked up tight isn't it? It's a wonder that men don't go to JWs in droves to collect these submissive, 1/2 drone women that are turned out in KHs! Of course I am not referring to the ones noted here that are genuine Christians and are doing their best to survive in this crazy world despite the fact that they are in the JWs.

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Ahhhhhhhhh That felt good - great

by Lady Lee in

i am a firm believer that information is power.

throughout my entire childhood and early adulthood either my parents, foster parent, and the wts did a great job of controlling the information i had.

by controlling the information, they controlled me.

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I used to have a lot of books too. 'Aid' was my favorite. Well, I realized that when I started to drift and then try to get information, I was told 'do you have the current issue, it has changed. I then realized the only GOOD books were the ones that are currently sold. Everything else is OLD news! So, saving them anyway won't help you find NEW TROOF! ha ha

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DeYoung Alumni ?

by Stacey in

did anyone here attend deyoung school in san jose, ca?

it was an all witness school.

just curious!

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Whenever we talked about it, it was referred to as a type of group homeschooling. Meaning that it had all JW teachers and students and they carried out the requirements that had to be met by the students for each grade. I often wondered if they studied the bible and read bible related issues all day or was it just like normal without mentioning Jah. Also, there must have been kid and teen issues there as well with kids not getting along, etc.

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